In my last post, I mentioned how certain the man was who told me I could be gay and Christian and I was definitely not going to hell.
Apart from his certainty, the other sickening thing was the patronising way he wrote to me. As if i needed sympathy; as if just because I don't believe the bible is the infallible Word of God, I needed to be pitied and spoken down to; as if just because i was gay, the whole thing was really my fault: I was a victim, a terrible victim of homophobia and awful treatment at the hands of society (for which he apologised).
It did not surprise me that he patronised me: his sort patronise everyone: he comments on every forum thread on the website and I bet he patronises everyone on those as well. It did not worry me that he pitied me for not believing the bible is the infallible Word of God. Mutatis mutandis, the feeling is mutual.
What annoyed me was that, just as he had (intentionally?) misheard and misunderstood everything I said in that discussion, so when he read this blog (for he must have done or he would have had no cause to link me with any sort of homophobia) - for which I applaud him: no-one else does - he misread and misunderstood this as well but to much more devastating effect. In his eyes, wilfully distorting or not, I am a poor old gay who has suffered endless homophobia and abuse all his life and, I assume, in his mind, am clinging to my liberal view of the bible as a way of avoiding yet another source of abuse, namelym God or at least God's word.
The facts however are very different: I have encountered a minimal amount of homophobia that afected me personally and I have been very happy to exploit it and advertise and publicise it. Hence the previous posts dealing with the homophobia of my manager. The only other example was when I was banned - as I still am - from preaching in local methodist churches because I am gay. That I managed not only to get published in the LGCM's book on christian homophobia but also, in the form of a letter into Attitude, the gay style magazine.
In short I am anything but a timid little gay man who needs sympathy for the very occasions in his life when he has met very mild homophobia. When I have encountered it, i have fought back, made clear what I think of it and made sure the rest of the world knows about it as well. Well, perhaps not the whole world but as much as I can be bothered to manage.
It gives me something to do when i am not slaving over my still unfinished PhD - and dare I say it, much more fun.
Labels: anglican, christian, homophobia, reader